This is quite something. I miss it many times - ponder internally over a matter, communicate an almost done conclusion and then spend energy defending your stance just to save one's face from a blundered process undertaken in solitude.
I have been guilty of that for many years!
The other side of the coin though is that one becomes hesitant or scared of being accused of taking a holier-than-thou position. There is this term that has become very popular: "Don't judge me!" It discourages the pulling aside of anyone for the sake of offering an alternative way or probing more about a situation.
"It's not you, it's me." There is more healing needed from this pandemic.
There are too many things here, but it really boils down to having a growth mindset & wanting to be a better dad, hubby, or friend ... Don't just welcome feedback, ask for it.
Letting one's partner in the process!
This is quite something. I miss it many times - ponder internally over a matter, communicate an almost done conclusion and then spend energy defending your stance just to save one's face from a blundered process undertaken in solitude.
I have been guilty of that for many years!
The other side of the coin though is that one becomes hesitant or scared of being accused of taking a holier-than-thou position. There is this term that has become very popular: "Don't judge me!" It discourages the pulling aside of anyone for the sake of offering an alternative way or probing more about a situation.
"It's not you, it's me." There is more healing needed from this pandemic.
Thank you for your thoughts.
Great thoughts, Rangwane. Communication is complex and multifaceted to its core. The commitment to getting better at it is all we can endeavour to do.
Hayi, hayi, hayi, bafo!
There are too many things here, but it really boils down to having a growth mindset & wanting to be a better dad, hubby, or friend ... Don't just welcome feedback, ask for it.